Potato or Pomme

Do you know that song “Lets call the whole thing off”. It’s about how two people see the same thing, call it the same thing but pronounce it differently.

I was singing it the other day and it got me thinking, how many times do we mis-interpret something because it is put a different way to the way we would put it.

How many times do we get upset or run around like a wailing banshee because someone isn’t acting exactly as we would in a given situation.

How many times do we stamp and scream and shout just because someone is being themselves an individual and not our clone.

How many arguments start because we call it a potato and someone called it a pomme de terre.

I tried an experiment with my daughter, we both sat on different ends of our garden wall, looking in the same direction, she described what she could see, I described what I could see.

We were both looking in exactly the same direction yet some things were hidden from my view but not from hers and the same for her.

Even when we changed places I still saw some things she hadn’t seen when she was sitting in her original place. Why? Simply because we were looking at the view through our own eyes and not each others.

This is what happens in life, I see things from one angle my partner sees them for a different angle, sometime we see exactly the same thing. It doesn’t mean we are not suited to each other, sometimes we change our view to coincide with each other, sometimes we don’t and we have learned to accept in some ways we are different, and this only enhances things. He likes some things I don’t, it doesn’t mean he shouldn’t do them at all but that he fits them in with things we do together, sometimes I do things I don’t particularly like, (within reason of course nothing kinky….although there was that one time when………) but I’ll do it because I know it will make him happy, and he does the same for me.

We recognize we are individuals and therefore some compromises have to be made, this doesn’t mean we give up our views it just means we shift slightly to accommodate each other.

A relationship is like two circles linked together, two wholes making another whole, and the bit that crosses over is where you see things in the same way, and as time goes on and you get to know each other more the bit that crosses over grows until you see more and more things the same way.