Should I Go Riding Off Into The Sunset On My Own Or With Someone Else?

You would be surprised how many people are in relationships purely because they are afraid to be alone, they aren’t happy, they don’t really want to be in a relationship with this person but they are so afraid to be alone they stick it out, waiting for someone better to come along and then they end the relationship. After all isn’t it better to be with someone than be on your own….depends if you really want to be happy and if you respect yourself.

There are always two basic choices for you to make every single day of your life and they are

1) do I stay on the path I am currently walking or
2) do I change paths.

That’s it simple isn’t it………the hard bit is when you come up with the answer I’m not sure.

If someone phones me asking if the relationship is the right one for them, I usually answer “Only you know the answer to that”, at this point the phone usually goes dead. However the ones who really want to find the answer will continue and I ask them

1) Why are you really in the relationship you are currently in?

2) Are you really happy in your current relationship and do you want it to continue?

3) If someone else came along who you liked would you end your relationship to pursue the other person?

4) Do you want the person you are currently with to change to suit you?

5) Do you really want what your current partner has to offer you and can you offer them what they want?

I will often ask my clients a question in answer to the question they ask me. The
reason I do this is to help them be really honest with themselves and therefore
find within themselves the answers they are seeking,

You see no matter how many times you are told something, until you understand what the real question you should be asking yourself is you won’t move forward because you won’t be getting the right answers.

Just because someone else comes along doesn’t mean you should go riding into the sunset with them, it simply could be a sign that you need to look at your current relationship with your eyes fully open and ask the right questions of yourself.

If you are in your current relationship for all the right reasons for you, and you are happy within that relationship, someone else coming into your radar won’t shake things up.

You see it’s not my place to tell you what to do, it’s my calling in life to lead you on the right route to finding certain answers within yourself, it’s my calling in life to look deep within you to see if you are holding the key to unlocking your life, or if you are simply trying to catch a red herring.


Blessings

You Are Not What You Do…. (Inspired by Eckhart Tolle)

Watching this weeks Oprah class the one thing that really stuck out for me was the thing about labels.

If you asked me who I was I would say I am a Psychic Counsellor, an Empowerment Coach, a mother, chief cook and bottle washer, a bit of a comedian, a girlfriend, a lover, but in truth these are what I do, they are roles I play, they are hats I wear, they are not me, they are not the essence of me, they are not what make me who I am. If I stopped doing these things I would still exist, all that would have happened would be that I had stopped playing a role, my outer existence would alter but my inner self would stay the same.

Or I may answer, happy, sad, tired, aching, but these are just feelings, states of mind these are not what I am, if I stopped feeling happy or sad or tired, I would still exist, I would exist without the feeling of happiness, sadness, etc.

A woman on the Oprah show asked how she could get over the fact she was having problems with getting old and losing her looks. She needs to learn no matter what the outside looks like, it’s the inside that makes us who we are. This is a great example of what happens when we put too much emphasis on our outward appearance and make that synonymous of who we are, when the outward appearance starts to fade we feel we are fading with it, instead of accepting it’s not us that is changing but just our appearance that is changing.

We are so used to being something and feeling something all the time that we are scared if the labels and the feelings go then surely we will be dead. But you are you when you are sleeping yet when you are sleeping you are not playing a role and you are not feeling, you are simply being. If only we could be awake when we are asleep we would understand what it feels like not to feel or play a role but just simply be.

Everyday find time to take off your hats, let go of the feelings and simply be.

Who and what am I……………I am me…………

Blessings.

If You Build On Shaky Foundations Things Will Fall Down

If the ground is unstable builders have to drive pylons deep into the ground to give a solid base for the foundations to be laid upon.

Then they build upwards layer by layer, in alignment with the foundations. Once the shell of the building is complete they then work on making it pretty and inviting. If the foundations are wrong, any layers added won’t line up properly, the building will start to show cracks and could eventually fall down.

If you are not secure and happy with yourself, if you are not living in alignment of what you want for you, then building a life on top of that will cause cracks to show.

If you are a shaky foundation the weight of any trials and tribulations will cause you to crumble and the whole thing will fall down around your ears.

You are the foundation stone that holds the rest of the life you build around yourself in alignment. Make sure before you start building upward the foundation stone is strong and solid.



Blessings.